Sunday, June 14, 2009
Sleeping...apparently a thing of the past
Our latest challenge with Dane just started about a week ago, and we wonder if anyone has experienced a similar situation or has ideas for why it's happening or how to get past it. Basically, Dane was doing pretty well, giving us a 2.5 hour block and then a 5 hour block in between his night feeds. Right around Mark's graduation however, he started having a regular screaming spree, starting around 10 each night and going progressively longer. Last night, Mark was up until 2 after his 10:30 bottle. We tried everything, changing him, giving more food, walking with him, putting him in his swing, changing how we held him every few minutes and nothing seems to work. It's like he's chosen this time of night as his angry time and we're just praying it won't last long. Mark starts residency tomorrow, and I start work the following week, so we're going to have a long week, where I'm alone with him all day (which basically means the entire day is taken up by feedings, as when I feed him alone - due to pumping and breastfeeding - each feed takes between 1.5 and 2 hours). Mark will be pooped from all the new stuff he's learning and will have to be out of the house by 7 am, which doesn't allow much for sleeping in if we've had a rough night. For the last few nights, I've gone to bed after breastfeeding and pumping, around 11:30 or 12, and Mark stays up to finish his bottle and put him down. Then, I let Mark sleep through the 5 or 6 am feed, giving him (since we've been getting up around 10), around 7 or 8 hours of sleep. However, once work starts, we'll have to be up much earlier and won't have the benefit of sharing feeds. We're both pretty nervous for how this is going to go, and I'm definitely looking forward to my mom arriving to help on the 22nd. We think Dane may have colic, given the number of hours and time of day that he's been crying lately and have tried Hyland's Colic Tabs and Little Tummy's Gripe Water, to no avail. If anyone has any suggestions for either what works to curb this, how to schedule him better, or when their little one finally got out of this phase, PLEASE let us know! We're feeling a little desperate, as most babies are out of this stage long before 3 months (but since he was a preemie, this is probably normal). We feel like we've been dealing with struggles for him since he came home; every time we feel like we're figuring something out, he changes, so we're really just looking for some hope that he'll start to be happier/more consistent soon.
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Oh golly...I sure wish I had some words of wisdom for you! Sounds like Dane's "witching" hour is that 10pm time-frame...which unfortunately is just something he has to grow out of. I remember Fen used to start crying around 5pm and just wouldn't stop for several hours. She grew out of it by about 6 weeks...not sure when that would correspond with Dane's growth. (sigh) All I can say is, this is a tough time...and the lack of sleep just makes everything seem crazier. Dustin and I had a pretty rough first year with Di....and I'm not saying it's going to last that long for you'll with Dane....these infant months can just be really hard!! If you ever feel in doubt or in need of a pep talk, schedule an appointment with your pediatrician....I did that many times!
ReplyDeleteThis is rough:( The only advice I can offer (and it sounds like you're doing this already) is to just assign times. When I went back to work, I got up with Nate if it was before 12:00 pm and Pete got up with him after. That way we could both be assured at least 5-6 hours of sleep a night...
ReplyDeleteIt's definitely rough though...
Vicky
Alex used to scream and scream for the first 8 weeks but it wasn't until we started swaddling him with the miracle blanket that he actually went to sleep better. after that we swore by it and kept him in it for the first year. he always broke out of his pink/blue hospital blanket but not the miracle blanket. it's like a super-tight burrito.
ReplyDeletecheck out miracleblanket.com
I'm sure we have ours somewhere if you want to borrow it!
Kent
Mark and Larissa,
ReplyDeleteIt's been almost 24 years since we dealt with a colicky baby, but I well remember the feelings of helplessness. With Kerry, the crying always began after the evening feeding and continued for 4-6 hours afterward. Swaddling helped. What really helped was realizing that it was inevitable and we had to just wait it out. It stopped at exactly three months, to the day. I'm not sure how the timing of this would be with a preemie, but it will come to an end and you will be able to just enjoy your baby without sleeplessness and without the fear that you must be doing something wrong! You are in my prayers! Shirley
Hey Mark and Larissa,
ReplyDeleteWould you be willing to email me at joelnkelly@hotmail.com so I have your email address. I wanted to pass along some information I just learned about concerning fussiness/colic/ not sleeping. My daughter is 8 weeks old, born a week and a half before her due date. She just entered into a very fussy not sleeping well phase. I refered to an EXCELLENT book I was given...Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth M.D. maybe you already have it...if so look at pages 218-224 pg 223 is key info...if not, I highly recommend it. Solid, tested advice and help. But, please email me and I'll give you some of the key advice....too much to write here.
Kelly (Stewart) Thorp...swimming buddy of Mark's